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7 Phases of Shared Fantasy: Why Narcissist Needs YOU - Analysis about Narcissism. This is a summary of my shared fantasy-dual mothership framework for the narcissist’s intimate interpersonal relationships …More
7 Phases of Shared Fantasy: Why Narcissist Needs YOU - Analysis about Narcissism. This is a summary of my shared fantasy-dual mothership framework for the narcissist’s intimate interpersonal relationships. 7 Stages of shared fantasy: 1. Co-Idealization (lovebombing, introject and narcissist all good because he owns object) 2. Dual mothership in a shared fantasy (recreation of childhood) 3. Need to reenact separation leads to mental discard which results in narcissistic injury (narcissist not omniscient, his judgment was wrong) 4. Devaluation of external object to restore grandiosity (make ego-congruent sense of the discard of an hitherto idealized object). 5. Devaluation of introject via splitting defense (introject now all-bad, narcissist grandiosely all-good) 6. Real life discard: projection of introject to you in an attempt to integrate it with external object. Projection-integration fails owing to abandonment anxiety triggered by introject inconstancy and your refusal to own split, all-bad introject. Devalued, split, all-bad introject remains as internal object, in narcissist's mind. This creates anxiety (bad object internalization-introjection) 7. The only way to reintegrate this internal object and reduce anxiety is by re-idealizing the external object and the corresponding introject. This is impossible if the narcissist has been mortified. He then departs from his previous version and reinvents himself which allows for self-idealization (grandiosity restored). Sam Vaknin. Q.: youtube.com/watch?v=Kp3YFC0OQfU
Maria delos Angeles
Thank you for posting this.
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It is a complicated and complex topic. There is a lot more information about it.
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In the USA and UK there are more channels and infos. In Germany there is mainly the channel of Arti (Artemis Sengstock): youtube.com/channel/UCIiHEiKw7l8sTPi6jDq5mcA - Here a good channel in English: youtube.com/@brianamacwilliam.attachment/videos
Maria delos Angeles
Ok, I'll check it out, thank you.
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7 Phases of Shared Fantasy: Why Narcissist Needs YOU - Analysis about Narcissism. Sam Vaknin. This is a summary of my shared fantasy-dual mothership framework for the narcissist’s intimate interpersonal relationships. 7 Stages of shared fantasy: 1. Co-Idealization (lovebombing, introject and narcissist all good because he owns object) 2. Dual mothership in a shared fantasy (recreation of childhood …More
7 Phases of Shared Fantasy: Why Narcissist Needs YOU - Analysis about Narcissism. Sam Vaknin. This is a summary of my shared fantasy-dual mothership framework for the narcissist’s intimate interpersonal relationships. 7 Stages of shared fantasy: 1. Co-Idealization (lovebombing, introject and narcissist all good because he owns object) 2. Dual mothership in a shared fantasy (recreation of childhood) 3. Need to reenact separation leads to mental discard which results in narcissistic injury (narcissist not omniscient, his judgment was wrong) 4. Devaluation of external object to restore grandiosity (make ego-congruent sense of the discard of an hitherto idealized object). 5. Devaluation of introject via splitting defense (introject now all-bad, narcissist grandiosely all-good) 6. Real life discard: projection of introject to you in an attempt to integrate it with external object. Projection-integration fails owing to abandonment anxiety triggered by introject inconstancy and your refusal to own split, all-bad introject. Devalued, split, all-bad introject remains as internal object, in narcissist's mind. This creates anxiety (bad object internalization-introjection) 7. The only way to reintegrate this internal object and reduce anxiety is by re-idealizing the external object and the corresponding introject. This is impossible if the narcissist has been mortified. He then departs from his previous version and reinvents himself which allows for self-idealization (grandiosity restored). Sam Vaknin. Q.: 7 Phases of Shared Fantasy: Why Narcissist Needs YOU
Vered Lavan
It is an awful, shocking, but important issue which has to be recognized by all people in society and especially for the victims of narcissism! I am a victim of narcissistic abuse. 22 years in my toxic family of origin and later on 18 years with changing narcissistic partners from whom I hoped that they could be a real husband. But it was a awful fallacy. 😰 - Für die deutschsprachige Community …More
It is an awful, shocking, but important issue which has to be recognized by all people in society and especially for the victims of narcissism! I am a victim of narcissistic abuse. 22 years in my toxic family of origin and later on 18 years with changing narcissistic partners from whom I hoped that they could be a real husband. But it was a awful fallacy. 😰 - Für die deutschsprachige Community (for the german-speaking community): Was ist eigentlich ein bösartiger Narzisst? +++ Hilfe für Opfer von Narzissmus +++ Wie der Narzisst einen Menschen in 10 Schritten üb… +++ Dr. Hans-Joachim Maaz "Das falsche Leben - Die nar…
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Important to raise awareness about narcissism. Thoughts on the hierarchy?
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Joseph - - Narcissists are everywhere, also in the hierarchy.
Vered Lavan
It is an awful, shocking, but important issue which has to be recognized by all people in society and especially for the victims of narcissism! 🙏 🙏
Vered Lavan
I am a victim of narcissistic abuse. 22 years in my toxic family of origin and later on 18 years with changing narcissistic partners from whom I hoped that they could be a real husband. But it was a awful fallacy. 😰